Sadly you and your boyfriend broke up, and a few months on, you are still feeling sad about it. Whether he broke up with you or you ended things with him, it doesn’t matter, you still have every right to miss him.
Breakups are never easy, even when they are for the right reasons. The longer you have been together, the harder breakups tend to be. This because you have got used to having your boyfriend in your life and then all of a sudden he is gone – it’s a big change to get use to.
If, however, after a few months of being apart, you still miss your ex and regretting breaking up with him, and may decide that you want him back. If this is the case and you have made the decision that you want your ex-boyfriend back, you are in the right place.
To help you get your ex back, here is what you need to do:
Understand that he may have moved on
The first thing that you need to do is understand that your ex may have moved on since you broke up. Obviously, he may not have, he may still be in love with you or he may not be, but it’s important that you realize that could have moved on.
This might be hard to stomach, but it’s important that you understand this. Otherwise, going back after him is a mistake. So it’s crucial that you understand and accept this.
Think about what went wrong
Think back to your relationship and break up and try to work out what it was that went wrong between the two of you. You were happy once, but then something changed or went wrong, what was it?
It can be hard to pinpoint what went wrong in a relationship, but it’s important that you try to work out what it was. The most popular reasons for problems in relationships are money, cheating, and one partner not pulling their weight. Was it one of these things that caused issues for you and your ex-partner?
Once you have worked out what it was that went wrong, you can then work out the best way to prevent the same problem occurring again.
Get some help
If you are unsure how to go about getting your ex back, the first thing you should do is get some help. There are various blogs, books and guides to getting your ex back, so have a read of a couple of these.
Have a browse online until your find a guide to get your ex-boyfriend back that is perfect for you – something that has all the advice you need. Everyone is different, and we all need different types of help, so what works for you will depend on you.
Arrange to meet up
Once you have done your research and know the best ways to get your ex back, the next step is to make contact. Whatever you do, your first meet up should be as friends, so that the two of you can get to know each other again. Under no circumstances should you sleep together, as this gives off all the wrong signals.
Spend some time getting to know each other again – go out for dinner, see a movie, go for drinks – date like you used to. As you spend more time together, see if you start to grow closer again if you do that’s great. This shows that your ex may still have feelings for you, which could lead to the two of you getting back together.
Part as friends
If, however, your love is unrequited, don’t part on bad terms. Aim to part as friends with your ex, so that you can still spend time together.
You might be sad that he didn’t want you back, but at least you tried. If you didn’t try, you would have always regretted it – remember that.
Whether you ended up getting your ex back or not, the important thing is that you tried. If you got your ex back, that’s fantastic. If not, at least now you have closure and can move on.